It’s Time To Let Go Of The Things That Are Hurting You

The other day my mom was watching my son, Noah, who is now 6 months old!! She said he just burst into tears randomly and she went running to him to see what was going on.

When she looked closer, Noah had a clump of his hair in his hands and he was yanking it so hard! He’s got quite the grip so my mom had to work hard to get his own hair out of his grasp. When he finally let go, he was immediately happy again and my mom was cracking up when she told me this. I was too! 

But then I started thinking, “wow, how often do we do that?”

It’s very unlikely we’re literally pulling our own hair and crying about it, but sometimes we do things that hurt us. That could be anything from addictions, bad relationships, pulling away from God or even just spending too much time on social media.

These things hurt.

And we cry out wondering why God would let us endure such pain – without realizing WE ARE THE ONES WITH THE HAIR IN OUR HANDS.

Let go friend. 

When we drop our grip on the things that hurt us, God can heal those wounds. And the joy that comes from freedom fills our hearts and minds.

It reminds me of the verse in 1 Corinthians 6:12 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial.”  God is faithful and He loves you unconditionally. So I’ll be praying for God to open my eyes to the things I’ve been gripping and maybe you’ll join me too. 

Kristen James

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  1. Susan on October 27, 2022 at 8:12 pm

    Wow powerful powerful message! We all say let it go go… shallowly. We know it’s good for us! Like “relax” sounds soo simple. But you nailed the nitty gritty. We really have to lean into the actually work of prying our own grip open soo the pain can literally flow out. Thank you Kristen and Noah and grandma!💕

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:40 am

      Amen Susan!!!

  2. Toni Maffeo on October 27, 2022 at 8:19 pm

    I just love this .

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:40 am

      Yes we are! And we don’t even realize it sometimes!!

  3. Anthony Leogrande on October 27, 2022 at 8:32 pm

    You couldn’t have said it better…. We’re are the ones with the hair in our hands! God is good and forever full of human love, empathy and forgiveness. But as you said, we need to let go and let God if we truly want to experience His joy 🙏🏼

    Thank you for the joyful and inspirational music of STAR99.1 FM. I just wish I could give more to spread God’s life saving words. And so others receive the the same joy that STAR has shared with me. Thank you again and in Jesus name I pray for all. ❤️

    • Lestine on October 29, 2022 at 10:26 am

      Thanks for the encouragement. I pray for continuance strength in God! No matter what we are clipping to, hurt, loss of someone or something, God is a healer! God word encourages us to cast all our cares unto him; for he knows and he deeply cares for us all. We are never alone, for Jesus is just a prayer away. Peace and blessings, and thanks again for uplifting our spirit and reminding us of God love!

      • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:41 am

        He is Lestine!!

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:41 am

      Amen Anthony!!

  4. Barbara Stewart on October 27, 2022 at 8:45 pm

    When we know better most do better. The spirit of forgiveness is so important so we can let it go..When we learn how these spirits are used against us. So it is so important to stay in the Word of God. Let it go. “It’s Not That Deep”. Peace and Blessings to all seeking Godly, Kingdom Healing

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:41 am

      Forever learning from my friend Barb! It’s not that deep!!

  5. Robert on October 27, 2022 at 9:51 pm

    How do you let go of the hurt caused by the loss of a child

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:44 am

      Oh Robert I’m so so sorry and I’m crying just thinking about the pain you must feel. That kind of pain can only be healed by God and knowing the fact that you will see your child in Heaven one day. This earth is not the end.

  6. Diana on October 28, 2022 at 7:11 am

    Kristen you really bring joy to people with. Your happy laugh your sweet voice NO matter what you’re going thur on the air you’re so positive uplifting tku for that . You’re a Beautiful Soul🌈🌈🌈🌈😇😇🥰🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👑⭐️

    • Kristen James on October 31, 2022 at 11:42 am

      Diana!! Thank YOU!! For the encouragement!

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